If the chooser is the same, the choice is going to be the same. Again the same thing will appeal to you. Maybe the face is a little different, the hairstyle is a little different, the color of the hair is a little different, but that is not the point. These are irrelevant things. A marriage does not depend on the color of the hair, a marriage does not depend on the color of the eyes, and a marriage does not depend on the length of the nose. These are superficial things. After two days, who looks at the size of the nose? Or who bothers about the color of the hair? In fact, if your wife suddenly goes and changes the color of her hair, the husband will be the last one to note it. Who bothers?
But more essential is why you choose a certain woman, why you choose a certain man. Why? What fits with your mind? Again you will choose the same type of woman, for the same reasons. Those reasons are unconscious. So you can go on changing women and you will not find the woman you are searching for. You can go on changing your job and you will not find the job you are searching for. And you can go on searching among the masters. From one to another you can go on moving and you will not find the master you are searching for, unless you become more alert about your mechanical habits.
Once you become aware of your mechanical habits, things start changing. Then the first ray of light has entered. Then you will choose a different kind of woman because you have become different. Then you will choose a different kind of master because you have become different. Then you will choose everything in a different way because you are different. And if a person chooses out of awareness, he chooses rightly.
People come to me and they ask, “What is right and what is wrong?” I say, “Awareness is right, unawareness is wrong.” I don’t label actions as wrong and right. I don’t say violence is wrong. Sometimes violence can be right. I don’t say love is right. Sometimes love can be wrong. Love can be for a wrong person, love can be for a wrong purpose. Somebody loves his country; now, this is wrong because nationalism is a curse. Somebody loves his religion; he can kill, he can murder, he can burn others’ temples. Neither is love always right nor is anger always wrong.
Then what is right and what is wrong? To me, awareness is right. If you are angry with full awareness, even anger is right. And if you are loving with unawareness, even love is not right.
So let the quality of awareness be there in every act that you do, in every thought that you think, in every dream that you dream. Let the quality of awareness enter your being more and more. Become suffused with the quality of awareness. Then whatever you do is virtue. Then whatever you do is good. Then whatever you do is a blessing to you and to the world in which you live.
Ponder over this small story. It is a story of four unconscious people who are trying to be silent. But they have not understood the laws of thought, they have not understood the law of being unconscious. They don’t know that man is a machine. They don’t know that to look at the other is a way of avoiding oneself. They are not yet conscious of what they are doing. Even though they are sitting in meditation and trying to be silent, they are not aware of the science of silence, of the Yoga of meditation. Hence this foolish anecdote became possible.